Mentoring High-Risk Youth With Amy Williams by Jacob Eckeberger
If you don’t have time to watch the full interview, here are 4 key ideas I took from my time with Amy Williams.
1) THERE’S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN AT-RISK AND HIGH-RISK YOUTH.
Every kid is at risk of not growing into a healthy adulthood. But there’s a smaller subgroup of at-risk kids that have more difficult life situations, and those are the high-risk youth. If that subgroup doesn’t have outside influences to support them, they’re significantly less likely to grow into a healthy adulthood.
2) WE SHOULD PROVIDE TEENS WITH SUPPORT THROUGH BOTH DISCIPLESHIP AND MENTORSHIP.
Amy explained that taking on those supportive roles will look different for every kid. Discipleship is what happens when we take on a spiritually supportive role in a kid’s life. But for those kids who don’t want to have anything to do with church, we can still provide a supportive role by mentoring them. It’s the idea that caring for the physical and emotional needs of a person could develop into opportunities to care for their spiritual needs as well. Amy says it well: “Discipleship is telling you what it means to look like Jesus. Mentoring is saying that we want to walk life with you on your journey to discover who you are . . . ”
3) PRACTICE THE MINISTRY OF NO.
Sometimes we feel as if kids only need to hear us say yes. We want to be supportive and active in their lives, but we can’t always say yes to the detriment of our own health and well-being. If we don’t take care of ourselves, no one else will. Amy points out that our kids are actually okay with the no. By choosing to say no to some things, we can model self-care to our students.
4) KIDS ARE NOT PROJECTS TO BE FIXED.
When we view kids as projects that need to be fixed, we create a relationship with them that’s similar to how a doctor approaches a patient. In this type of relationship, the patients—a.k.a. our students—always have to be sick, and we—the doctors—always have to be well. But when we free ourselves from that doctor/patient mindset, it creates room for the Holy Spirit to be just as alive in the hearts and minds of our students as the Holy Spirit is alive in us. Our kids don’t have to be sick to need us. We can celebrate the amazing work being done in their lives and truly be the support that they need in order to change the world around them.